“Re-entry” after the holidays can be bitter-sweet…

…because some feel they lose control on holiday. They look forward to regaining it; to thinking rather than feeling. Yet they also face the four Ps at their worst: People, Politics and Pressure. In addition wistfulness lingers about how little time is actually spent with family. It can be a time to reframe personal strategy. Carpe Diem and all that.

Ciaran Fenton

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“Another CEO…spent months avoiding a difficult discussion with his two directors” quotes Naomi Shragai…

… In her excellent piece in today’s FT about managers putting off awkward discussions. She’s a psychotherapist and in the case of this CEO he learned that he was still being influenced by the fact that “in my family conflicts were never really raised or dealt with”.

This story resonates because of the number of senior clients over the years who have been similarly influenced.

It appears from some research that we make decisions in childhood in response to circumstances at the time but we hold on to these behaviours even though circumstances have changed in adulthood. We can of course make new decisions and that seems to be the route to personal growth and higher levels of emotional intelligence.

Ciaran Fenton

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